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16 Signs That You’re In A Karmic Relationship

What Does Karma Really Mean?

“For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.”

“You reap what you sow.”

“What goes around comes around.”

These are everyday phrases that actually describe it.

What Is A Karmic Relationship?

A karmic relationship is incorporated into your life to bring situations to you according to your karmic record.

When we find ourselves in a karmic relationship, we can either learn, grow, and expand or obsess, stagnate, and break apart.

Notes – karmic relationship or any other karma is a very strong attachment that can last for years.

No matter how much you may want it to be, a karmic relationship is not your twin flame or soulmate. This can be difficult, to say the least.

16 Signs That You’re In A Karmic Relationships

#1 You Are Excessively Closed Off From Your Partner

This can go either way. Occasionally the cause of your unhappiness or disagreements is because you haven’t done anything to remedy the situation.

Typically, this happens because couples in a karmic relationship tend to hide their feelings or express the wrong types of feelings.

#2 You Fight Over The Same Things Repeatedly

In a karmic relationship, you will find yourselves arguing over and over again about the same sets of problems because you are not resolving any of them as they arise; they continue to circle and crop up again and again.

Over time, it can start to feel like this behavior is normal; however, it is not the way a healthy relationship works.

#3 You Have Lots Of Unresolved Issues

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One of the biggest killers of any relationship is lots of unresolved issues. When a problem in a relationship goes unresolved for long enough, it tends to fester and breed resentment and bitterness.

Most karmic relationships have this in common; hence, you will need to think about whether this applies to your relationship.

Important note – if you want to move forward, you have to address any difficulties which come up along the way. If this sounds like the total opposite behavior of you and your partner, you might be in a karmic relationship.

#4 You Don’t Feel Secure In Your Relationship

People in karmic relationships find themselves in constant breakups and upheavals in the relationship.

If you find yourself often ending things or coming close to it, then it is time to reconsider some things and make the necessary changes. 

#5 Emotional DisconnectionEnding Relationships

An emotional distance may occur when there is a breakdown in any type of communication, and you observe a lack of meaning or depth in your conversations. You may stop sharing emotional details and important events of your day.

Moreover, there is a certain amount of disinterest in what the other person is doing. You may develop different interests and lead parallel lives that rarely intersect.

#6 Thinly Veiled Threats

Threatening to break up with you, certain behaviors, or even some more extreme threats are another way that karmic partners use to make you act the way they want you to.

They won’t actually follow through on their threats; however, they may make you believe that they will.

Important note – if this is beginning to happen, urge your partner to seek alternative support for what they feel is bothering them and that you are not the solution to their issues.

#7 Your Relationship Leaves You On Top Of The World One Day, Really Low The Next

Karmic relationships can be like drugs in the sense that when the two of you have good moments, it is so good it is like nothing else matters. Of course, when you try to leave, or you fight, one or both partners will experience the inevitable crash followed by feeling awful.

Important note – you might even feel physically sick if you try to walk away from a karmic relationship, manifesting similar symptoms to someone withdrawing from a drug.

#8 Not Respecting Your Need For Time Alone

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It is another way of making you feel like you don’t love them enough when you perhaps need less time with them than they require with you, or sapping your strength: making you feel guilty for the time you need on your own to recharge.

Moreover, it is natural that two partners may not automatically have the same needs in terms of alone time, even if they are both introverts (or extroverts).

In healthy relationships, communication about those needs leads to a workable compromise. In karmic relationships, the person needing the alone time is made out to be a villain, taking away yet another method they can strengthen themselves.

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#9 Regular Disagreements and Arguments

Every healthy relationship has its fair share of fights; however, in a karmic relationship, the fights are more frequent and even on really small problems.

Important note – there’s a lack of peace, and you find yourself happier when you are not around your partner.

#10 You Feel Emotionally Drained

A healthy partnership should make you feel secure, safe, emotionally fulfilled, and happy most of the time. All couples will experience times of sadness and conflict, but those should be less frequent.

Important note – when you notice that feelings of depression, sadness, or thoughts of being trapped in this karmic relationship have been happening to you, it is time to exit the relationship or seek help.

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#11 You Are Overly Dependent On Your Partner

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You think the karmic relationship works because you feel your happiness depends on it. The truth is you may be dependent on your partner and vice versa. That’s why you keep coming back to the same place over and over again.

#12 Constant Criticism

Part of a healthy relationship is being open and honest with each other. This can translate into helping each other improve with constructive criticism. Criticism is not a sign of a toxic relationship, as it can help us learn and grow.

But, if the criticism is constant and based on small things which you didn’t ask for critique on, then it may have gone too far. Karmic partners use criticism to let you know what they don’t like, with the aim of getting you to stop or change.

Important note – if you feel that you are constantly criticized by your partner, then talk to them, ask them to be more mindful in the future, and tell them how you feel.

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#13 Things Are Difficult More Than They Are Smoothcouple argue

It’s healthy for all relationships to feel difficult at times. You might feel frustration or anger towards your partner, and you will experience conflict – these are all a normal part of learning each other’s boundaries.

However, if you are constantly talking about the relationship instead of your interests and lives, and if drama and conflict seem to happen almost every time you are together, there is a good chance your relationship is a karmic one.

#14 There Isn’t Any Long-Term Purpose To Your Relationship

Another sign that your relationship is a karmic one is that there really isn’t any long-term purpose to it. You should ask yourself if there is an actual purpose or whether or not you are in your relationship just to be in it.

Some people are so desperate to be in a relationship due to the fact that they have been single for so long that they get into a relationship on a whim, which is never a good thing.

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#15 Regularly Points Out Your Flaws

Your karmic partner is going to make sure you know about it when you don’t live up to her or his expectations or make a mistake.

Nothing gets by your karmic partner, and you are given no grace when it comes to being imperfect in any way. You feel unlovable and unloved as a result.

#16 Repeatedly Ignores Your Requests

Your karmic partner doesn’t care that you have asked her not to leave his dirty dishes in the sink. He does as he pleases.

You might ask your partner to put the kids to bed tonight as you are exhausted. However, it is not going to happen since he has other plans. Your requests and boundaries are rarely honored.

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Thursday 14th of February 2019

Wow. Described my marriage entirely. I'm happier away from him than I was with him.