What is Our attitude towards those who help us?
Helping others is a part of the human experience and one of the things that make human beings.. human. Helping others in our day-to-day life is something that comes naturally for most of us.
What’s amazing about this process is the fact that sometimes helpers benefit more than those they help. In other words, by giving help, we ourselves benefit directly from it in a variety of ways, as Francis of Assisi would say: „For it is in giving that we receive.”
If parents or other people want to help us and they insist on it, we should accept it. In the process of helping, the receiving is just as important as the giving. Jarod Kintz said that „The only gift I have to give is the ability to receive. If giving is a gift, and it surely is, then my gift to you is to allow you to give to me.”
Help should be used profitably, because if we don’t use it at all or we use it the wrong way, with a negative purpose, we will accumulate bad karma.
We don’t have to worry about the possible dependence on someone. It is a misconception to believe that such a relationship is bad; it is our ego that makes us feel that way.
In reality, we are all dependents; nobody is independent because we cannot meet our needs alone. Actually, we all depend on others as we are constantly interconnected.
However, this doesn’t mean that we must only receive help and use it. It is necessary also to remember the person who helped us and not forget its good deeds. If possible, we should try to be grateful for the kindness and help that is given to us.
We must never forget the help we receive, but do everything possible to forget the harm done to us. In general, we tend to forget the well-doing but, unfortunately, never the little inconveniences.
Even so, a negative action should not persist in our mind, but be a trace of water, because those who bring harm to us are in fact our benefactors, since they give us the chance to pay off our debts from unwholesome actions of the past. On the other hand, the aid received must remain indelible, as etched in stone.
Blessings follow a generous heart, so clearly helping others is a reciprocal process that has benefits for both the helper and the person being helped. That is why we should constantly practice gratitude, as a means to cultivate the seeds of happiness.